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Do you struggle to control your anger? Are you the victim of someone who loses their temper? When you feel angry, controlling that rage is very difficult–but it’s possible. And Joseph Telushkin, a rabbi and best-selling author, shares one simple, doable rule that may just save the relationships of those who take it seriously.
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Do you wish you had better control over your temper? Do the people around you, your spouse, your friends, your boyfriend or girlfriend, your children, wish you had better control over your temper?

Unfair or excessive anger is a major cause of marital strife, of tensions between parents and children, and of tensions in work places. Sometimes anger is responsible for more than just tension. “Road rage,” for example, is implicated in hundreds of deaths and thousands of accidents each year.

Of course, anger is not always wrong. Sometimes it’s absolutely necessary. There is evil in the world and sometimes in our own lives. If that didn’t make us angry, neither nations nor individuals would ever oppose it. Think about it for a moment: Would you want to live in a world where no one except victims felt anger toward terrorists, rapists and murderers?

But that’s not the sort of anger I am talking about now. I’m talking about day-to-day anger and the role an angry disposition plays in poisoning our daily lives and the lives of those around us. People with quick tempers sometimes say that they can’t control their anger. But that’s not true. People can’t always control how they feel, but they can almost always control how they act.

Let me offer an example: Imagine you’re walking down the street when suddenly you’re confronted by a person with a weapon demanding your money. Clearly, you’re furious. But do you shout at the person? Do you curse him? Very unlikely. You speak in as calm a voice as you can, probably even in a respectful manner — if you speak at all! We all know why we would act in such a calm way — in order to save our life. Obviously, then, we can control our tempers when we really want to.

Now there are whole courses on “anger management” and they undoubtedly have many ideas and suggestions. But I would like to offer one rule that will enable you to control your anger and almost guarantee that you will never say something that will lead to an irrevocable break or a permanent hurt in your relationship with another person: No matter how angry you get, restrict the expression of your anger to the incident that provoked it.

This means when someone has done something wrong and has hurt you, express anger for what they did – but only concerning that incident . Don’t use words like “always,” or “never.” “You’re always inconsiderate,” “You never think before you act.” What’s the other person supposed to say? “You’re right. I am always inconsiderate.” In addition to making the other person defensive — who wouldn’t become defensive when accused of always being anything bad — your statement is untrue. No one is always inconsiderate. No one never thinks before he or she acts.

That someone has done something wrong to you doesn’t give you the right to lie to or about them.

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  1. Anger is a human emotion, but what you do with it matters! It is ok to get angry, but place your anger within the context – Do not project on others and the environment around you because you are not resolving your anger. Anger is a human emotion that needs attention when it occurs, and needs resolution – hopefully as soon as is possible. Thank you for sharing this video on anger.

  6. Soooooo another words…..don't ever get angry at the situation that upsets you? This shows the intelligence and how much this man knows what he is talking about. He must have no opinion on built/pent up anger/rage. Wonder what would have caused it….gee George idk

  14. I am blind and I also have autism and I used to have a foul temper but I had to learn to control it and it absolutely frustrates me when people especially those with disabilities are not taught to control their anger
    Saying they have a disability is no excuse I also have a disability multiple disabilities in fact and I still had to learn to control my anger
    Yes I still get frustrated and I still get angry but I have learnt to control it and at least try to channel it in a different way
    Was it easy
    Of course not
    It’s not meant to be easy but it still has to be done

  16. Technically I'm not an angry person but it's all the drama of when people use you for a stupid person and when you confront them about it you can't help but to be angry, now your upset and it reflects back on you so people see you in that way, I don't believe that I was the problem just other people got you there and that cycle seems to continue that makes you a bad person extra

  17. So a trick I've used for years to prevent road rage. I PLAN in advance to have at least 3 reason to either have to hit my brakes, or make an adjustment for the other guy. First of all, it 's almost never on purpose, but rather a absent mildness mistake, so why should I get all heated about it. So when the inevitable happens, I simply say out loud to myself "One". Amazingly—-I've never gotten past 3, and I've prevented myself from getting angry about what was most likely an honest mistake.