How to Get Kids to Listen | 5 Minute Video
Why is it so hard for so many parents and teachers to get kids to do as they are told? Because too many adults have followed some very bad advice. Family psychologist John Rosemond offers some useful tips on how to get the little barbarians to listen.
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Script:
When was the last time you heard a child referred to as obedient? It’s probably been a while. That’s too bad because the best research tells us that obedient children are happy children. And, from my experience as a family psychologist, the parents of obedient children are happy parents.
Since all parents want their children to be happy, the question becomes: How does one get a child to obey? Is there some trick to it?
Well, there are certainly are a lot of parents who think so. They believe that proper discipline is a matter of using the right methods, techniques, and strategies: what I call consequence delivery systems. Parents have been using these behavior-modification-based methods since they became popular in the 1960s – seemingly to no avail. Would anyone argue that today’s kids are more obedient than kids were several generations ago? I don’t think so. The reason these methods and techniques don’t work is that proper discipline is not a matter of proper methods. It’s a matter of a proper attitude on the part of the parent.
Let me illustrate the point. Let’s say that for a week I observe the classroom of a grade school teacher who has the reputation of being the best disciplinarian in her district. She consistently has fewer behavior problems than any of her colleagues. What is she doing? She’s making her expectations perfectly clear. Which means, first, she communicates in simple, declarative sentences. She doesn’t use fifty words when she could use ten. The more words you use to communicate your expectations, the less confident you sound.
Second, she prefaces her instructions to her students with authoritative phrases like “I want you to…” and “It’s time for you to…” She says, “It’s time for you to take out your math books and turn to page 25” as opposed to “Let’s take out our math books and turn to page 25. Okay?”
Third, this teacher does not explain the motives behind her instructions to her students. Why? Because she knows that explanations invite arguments.
Whenever parents tell me they’re dealing with an argumentative child I know that these well-intentioned people are explaining themselves. They tell their child why they want him to pick up his toys, for example. And he argues, because you can always pick apart an explanation. If you don’t explain yourself when you give an instruction to a child, then the child, being a child, is almost surely going to ask for one. He’s going to ask Why? or Why not? At which point… get ready for a big surprise… your answer should be “Because I said so.”
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This is what I practiced successfully with my own children. This practice is unsuccessful with my students . The parents want me to bend to the whims of the child , the parents are acting contrary to my efforts, they ignore the negative results of their actions explaining the child’s behavior with ridiculous excuses.
"The more words you use, the less confident you sound"
Ben Shapiro: 😔
Thank you for sparing me from the woke Marxist Leninist liberal parenting
Why do the parents look evil😂😂😂
0:53 yeahh??
Why are they blue
Ok discount Dr Phil with even less education (and not even a psychologist).
This isn’t the 1960’s anymore
As someone who grew up with this parenting style, albeit to a lesser extent, I constantly have problems with telling people no and setting boundaries which have led me to the point of self harm. If you are a parent, please don't do this.
Like, now i really believe you´re actively trying to destroy traditional families. wtf
Clearly a lot of coddled children in these comments.
Child Abuse 101
Wow… I really would rather have kids who don't learn to question arguments. Give me a kid who mindlessly follow shit as an adult. Yep, that's where real humanity comes from. Blindly following shit without feeling like they can question things.
Why dont we go back in time and ask the slaves how they feel about "obedient=happy"
How to be a horrible parent 101
Just show no reaction to any kind of histery in young ages, otherwise they will learn that being histeric helps.
As someone who suffered psychological damage from the words "I told you so" as a kid, this is nonsense.
Turn to Jesus people he died for your sins. Repent of what the New testament describes as sin. Believe the gospel get baptized and obey the teachings of Jesus. The gospel and the teachings of Jesus are documented in Matthew Mark Luke and John. Jesus is the only way to be saved God bless you all. If you have faith in Jesus through your faith you will live life with him as your example…
As a parent thank you for making this video. I make mistakes but i’m sure i can raise well behaved children, unlike most parents these days.
this is dumb
This totally sounds like propaganda experts trying to apply their principals to child rearing. I bet the 3rd reich gave this exact same advice to parents. This is a great way to raise an obedient robot like human. Unless you get a strong willed critical thinker child, then you’re going to enjoy a rebellious disaster and a kid that will have nothing to do with you later.
Im in my car during my hour break and watching videos like these 😂 i will try these with my 3-4 year old class
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Do NOT listen to anything this immature and incorrect man kid is talking about
I watched parents all around me growing up try these exact steps, and not a single one of their children ever ended up as "obedient"
In fact, most of them simply don't talk to their parents anymore now, and resent their treatment now that they're adults
Literally 1984
And this coming from a group who pretends anyone left of right is an authoritarian bully
I kept waiting for the Rick Roll….
Alternative title: how to raise sheep
A. He is a psychological associate, not a psychiatrist.
B. Only one member of his team has a doctorate, from a SEMINARY that is not recognized by the American Pediatric Association.
C. All of the "sources" of this video are written by him.
D. Only one source accredits people, a woman who thinks showing love is a bad thing and a man who promotes spanking from a registered far-right anti-LGBTQ hate group THAT ROSEMOND BELONGS TO. (American College of Paediatricians.)
E. None of these sources are in registered psychiatric journals and are mostly op-eds.
F. He thinks the entire field of psychiatry is phony.
G. He "does not practice traditional psychology" i.e. is a fraud.
H. His idea that a punishment's memory must last lifelong is the definition of TRAUMA.
I. This is the same ass who said an 18-month-old who was raped wouldn't remember it and hence, wouldn't need therapy.
J. YOU CAN ONLY PICK APART EXPLANATIONS IF THEY'RE NOT GOOD EXPLANATIONS, WHICH SUMMARIZES THIS VIDEO.
K. WHAT THE F-
(P.S. There's a whole video on this.) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZUz1nCRJJBg
My gosh, this is horrible advice.
I really agree with him about most, but 1 thing I don't agree with is not giving explanations. This is situational. In the end it's still because I said so, but if you have the time, you should explain why. Sometimes you don't have the time, and you can explain later. And sometimes it's just, Mom and Dad can do, but you can't until you're older. Like saying swear words. But a good parent will try to lead through example.
3 of your source are not research but yourself, another source is a man who supports spanking children and another is a questionable theory with no scientific basis
Is this why Dennis' kid struggles with alcoholism? Sad that he had such a POS as a dad growing up
Is there a trick to it? Trust and respect both ways.
Logical fallacies:
0:00: Loaded Question
0:09: Hasty Generalization
0:15: Anecdotal / Appeal to Authority
0:46: Historians fallacy
0:54: Loaded Question
1:01: Black and White
1:48: Appeal to Authority
2:58: Circular reasoning / Appeal to Authority
3:13: Hasty Generalization
3:33: Appeal to Authority
3:55: Strawman
Sir you just waisted my 5 min of life lol)))
Go stick your nose in a wasp nest, Johnny Roefelschteine!
"Obedient children are happy children"
"Obedient slaves are happy slaves"
"War is peace"
"Freedom is slavery"
"Ignorance is Strength"
High likelihood that several of this guy’s patients have killed themselves. And he just went, “oh well, they’re weak, nothing to do with me being terrible at my job”
This coming from the same organisation that’s making a mini documentary called “War on Children”. You cannot make this stuff up.
Is this guy psychologist or psychological associate ?
To the 49k who liked this garbage. Please get help and do not have kids. Thank you 😊
As a teen, I don't like being very obedient (especially to an instruction that sounds very unreasonable that remains unexplained) 😊 It makes me feel less human 😀 not happy sounding. If you try to make me do something unreasonable, I will not listen until I get a reasonable explanation. That's what I do with my parents. If they want to enter my room (which I always keep locked) I ask them why do they want to enter, they give me an answer, I let them and the same process continues over and over again. Lesson to parents: if you follow this guy's advice, you will raise rebellious children instead, and that's not good. They will never listen to you and will probably make decisions that contradicts what you say, like don't do drugs! They might because they don't like you for how you treat them like less than human 🙂 They will dismiss your advice.
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If I bend down and look somebody in the eye, I acknowledge them, hear them and treat them as same-valued.
Everyone calling this guy a hypocrite is missing the point. Refined, disciplined, well educated kids grow into intelligent, free thinking adults. The ones who have no adult supervision are always the ones who evolve into naive, suggestible pawns who believe any idiot pop star or internet influencer who says anything.
I looked this dude up. He doesn’t even have a PhD or a PsyD. You need to have one or both of these to practice psychology. Not the most credible source out there.